Basic Communication Skills
Develop your communication skills -
We need improvements inwardly and outwardly concerning our attitude. In both these directions, we should be honest with ourselves as well as with others. And it’s not like we tell people to follow us and not having a clue as to where we’re going. You should know where you’re going first. There's a lot of people out there that don’t have a clue as to where they’re going. People like politicians, clergy, public servants, the private sector, etc. Many of them even invite others on board and not having a clue. Basic communication skills concentrate on giving the basics in what to say and when to say. More often we will find people that say something at the wrong ‘moment’. That also may cause havoc in any relationship. Your subordinates need this skill to improve even to work with the public or the people whom they serve. All of us serve somebody else with something, even if it be the message of hope and salvation in Jesus Christ. We live to serve! And others serve to live! The difference is our focus and reach.
Using your words wisely should always be an important daily characteristic of anyone. Some people choose not to think before they speak and those words have some repercussions. Sometimes using the wrong words may cost the 'speaker' dearly. The price will often result in guilt, anger, frustration, and in general misunderstanding.
Sometimes we just need to put our words in another fashion. Watching what you say is almost like watching what you eat. You've heard the saying "You are what you eat"? Well it's quite the same with words... You are what you speak. Don't fool yourself that you live in a free world and you may speak as you like. That's not true. You may not offend anyone with your words; it's against the law in most countries and plainly rude. But this isn’t' the case I'd like to address.
A word is like building a road between two or more places. This road ends up sometimes full of potholes and cracks, but other times be a fairly good highway between here and there. Your words most of the time will either empower you or abuse you.
3 Things you should remember while choosing your words:
Negative Attitude - Our attitude hides in our words. When you have a bad day it will sooner or later show. Like when you are facing some emotional conflicts or some distress, it will surface and you may try to hide those emotions in words, but negative thinking will always influence the way you react.
Words leave impressions that last forever - Thinking about a stone and you through it in the pond. You will see ripple effects all the way. In the same sense, words may still have an effect for some years after the outspoken words. Many of us may also remember a negative spoken word that was given when we were still children... leaving impressions in our minds forever and ever.
Choose your words wisely - and in doing so you may prevent a misunderstanding or a conflict situation. Many people who do not take care of this aspect often fall into the trap of impingement.
Actions speak louder than words. Don’t let your actions get in the way of what you’re trying to say. Make use of words in a fashionable way. We often fall prey to the actions that dominate and rule over our words. A very wise person once said:
'Who you are, speaks so loudly I can't hear what you're saying'.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
What you do, speak so loud that it makes it so difficult to hear what you’re trying to say.